Attending a marriage counseling intensive retreat is deeply personal. It’s not unusual for some spouses to be reluctant in getting professional help with their marriage.  This includes attending  private counseling or a marriage retreat or workshop. How you suggest to your spouse you as a couple should consider getting professional help with your marriage is…

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A person who is convinced that they have nothing at all to change in their marriage is a person who is well on their way to marital failure. I would be the first to admit, I’m not the same person I was when Sue and I first got married in over 25 years ago. God has had to do a lot…

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Dealing With Stress In Marriage Stress can be debilitating within the confines of an otherwise good marriage. They’re a respectable Christian couple, actively involved in career/homemaking, community, and church activities. But lately, they’ve noticed a difference in their marriage. Those walks and late-night talks that they used to enjoy have all but disappeared. Nowadays they’re…

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Can this marriage be saved? This is a question frequently thought about by couples who feel hurt and hopeless.  It’s not just sad, it is also tragic when a couple loses at love and their marriage falls apart.  Especially where there are children at risk.  If you or someone you love has ever been there,…

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Love: The Best Valentine’s Gift of All Understanding how to have a happy,  meaningful marriage first  begins with understanding what it is that all human beings need most.  We all know what that need is. In order to be happy, what we all want and need more than anything else is love. This is the…

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Over the past 15 years I’ve worked with couples at various stages in their marriages, from engaged couples preparing for marriage to married couples disengaging from marriage. And all kinds of couples in between.  I would say beyond a doubt, one of the main ingredients of a good marriage is “how couples listen to each…

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Love Described Let’s describe a love worth finding. The Greek language has four different words for love, describing the many dimensions of loving relationships: storge, conveys the idea of fondness or devotion. eros, connotes physical intimacy or sexual love. phileo is Greek for friendship or companionship love. agape, is defined as unconditional, positive regard for…

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God did a wonderful thing when He created man and woman so differently.  The differences between man as male and woman as female were intended to usher in many special blessings (Genesis 1:28). Unfortunately, because of the fall, the blessings of the sexes became the battle between the sexes. The unique qualities with which God…

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Why do marriages fail?  While the answers to that question are many and often complex, there is a growing body of research suggesting that there are four negative risk factors- four negative behavior patterns that create barriers to oneness in marriage and increase a couple’s chances for marital failure. In one of the key studies,…

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Why Do Marriages Fail? While the answers to that question are many and often complex, there is a growing body of research suggesting that there are four negative risk factors. Four negative behavior patterns that create barriers in a marriage and increase a couple’s chances for marital failure. In one key study, researchers followed a…

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