“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not so easy” – Aristotle, 384 B.C.  During my 25 years of working with couples in distressed marriages, I would say that…

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    After discovering that her husband had an affair, Phyllis, like many spouses who’ve been devastated by an affair, told me that she had discovered that her husband , Lanny was having an affair, and that she had just found out for certain about the affair 3 days ago.She told me that five or…

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The Truth About Divorce

Thoughts of divorce? There are few things in life that are more painful than the feeling of falling out of love. It is overwhelming. From the time you wake up in the morning, that’s all you can think about. Nothing else really matters. All your waking hours, your thoughts and feelings, your entire life is…

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Adultery and Restoring Your Marriage    It’s happened. It was the last thing either of you could ever have imagined that could happen to you.  During more than twenty-five years of helping hundreds of couples avoid this catastrophic marriage event, I have found there are several critical concepts making it possible restore your marriage. I…

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I have counseled with hundreds of distressed marriages from all across the U.S. and Canada. I’ve listened to a lot of men who’ve shared with me their anguishing experience of being told by their wives that she wants out; she wants a separation or a divorce. Others, distraught and at a point of despair have told me how they came home from work one day, “totally surprised,” only to find their wives had packed their bags and left.

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Perhaps you are going through the searing pain of adultery. If so, my heart goes out to you. You may be wondering “Can a marriage really heal after an affair?” Having worked with distressed couples for over 19 years, I can answer that question with a resounding YES – provided…

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